How to Navigate Mother’s Day When You’re Grieving

Mother’s Day is often painted in soft pastels and sweet brunches. A day of celebration and appreciation. But for many—myself included—it’s also a reminder of something missing. As a Licensed Therapist who has experienced loss, I’ve felt grief and have learned it’s a life-long process that can resurface no matter how much time has passed. I give you permission to honor your feelings when grief resurfaces and know that it’s not weak to still have tough days.

I lost my Mother when I was young and no matter how many years pass, Mother’s Day continues to stir something deep within me. Grief has this way of showing up in waves—sometimes quietly, sometimes all at once—and holidays and anniversaries have a way of pulling it to the surface.

Whether you’ve lost your mother, lost a child, are grieving the mother you wish you had, or are navigating complicated feelings about motherhood in any form—you’re not alone.

Grief doesn’t follow a timeline.
There’s no deadline for "moving on," and anyone who tells you otherwise hasn’t walked this road. Grief often shows up in layers, shifting with each season of life. It may change shape, but it doesn’t disappear, it becomes something we learn to carry.

This Mother’s Day, I want you to know it’s okay to do whatever feels right for you.

• Maybe that means spending the day with your siblings, making your mom’s favorite meal, or visiting a special place you shared.

• Maybe it means honoring a mother figure in your life who has showed up with the love and care you needed.

• Maybe you’re leaning into your own motherhood journey—whether with children, stepchildren, or the pets that bring you joy.

• Maybe you’re celebrating friends who have become mothers. 

• Or maybe, this year, you simply need rest. A quiet walk, a good cry, or a day offline.
  

There is no “right way” to grieve.

Mother’s Day can be beautiful and painful, joyful and heavy—all at once. You’re allowed to hold space for whatever emotions come up. You’re allowed to not explain yourself and you’re absolutely allowed to spend the day how you wish.

Grief is not a failure to heal. It’s a reflection of love that continues.

So however you’re feeling this Mother’s Day, let this be your permission slip:
✨ Do what you need to feel grounded, comforted, and cared for.
✨ Your grief is valid. Your experience is real.
✨ And you don’t have to carry it alone.

Sending warmth to anyone holding tender feelings this weekend. I see you.

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📍San Diego Therapist | Anxiety, Grief, and Life Transitions